Let me tell you a secret of life, anytime you set goals in life, so many obstacles will try to stampede you. If you are not mentally tough, you will not achieve your goals. Hear this, It takes a very “strong will” to persevere through whatever obstacles may come your way.
Below, I will share with you some of the obstacles you may likely face and how you can do to deal head-on with them. However, before we look at those things, I need you to be conversant with something “whatever your goals are, you must either be passionate about them or extremely determined to achieve them”. There must be some motivational force pushing you to achieve your goals – if not, quitting will likely be the available option left. The question is-, what is your “why” for getting up every morning and how do you go about executing it until you see the end of it?
Personally, I am extremely “radical” about my goals in life. I have written down eight things I want to accomplish by his grace before I leave this planet earth. I carry that sheet of paper in my wallet everywhere I go. I also pasted a copy of it by my bedside. I want it to be the first thing I see in the morning when I wake up and the last thing I see before I go to bed.
Do you have any goals? Have you written them down? Have you prioritized your goals? Do you have an action plan? Do you have timelines attached to each goal? Keep in mind that your goals must be tied to your overall purpose in life. I have defined a singular purpose for my life and all the eight goals are directed towards achieving that purpose. Do you know that nine out of ten people cannot answer a question as simple as “what is your purpose?”. Little wonder, a lot of people struggle every day trying to find direction in life. Who is to be blamed for this? Think about it, have you ever come across any school or college which has a distinct subject or course titled – “Finding your Purpose in Life” or some other nomenclature relating to that? Moreover, even at home, some of our loving parents did not teach us how to find purpose in life. Our parents only gave us what they had or what they have (for those of them who still living). After all, it is often said that “one can only give what he has” The big question is “how do you find your purpose?”
Here are four obstacles, amongst others, you may likely face along the way to achieving your purpose/goals and what you can do to face them “head-on:”
1. Your thoughts and consequently your emotions:
I have often said that the way a man thinks is his greatest problem. Deal with your thoughts. A lot of people have self-defeating thoughts. The first thing you must do is get rid of those negative thoughts that “it cannot be done.” Learn to think big. This is no cliche. But what if it is? some cliches are to be taken seriously because they are “right and driven” Do you know that your thoughts transmute to your emotions? Separate the facts from your feelings and think critically about the various options or alternatives. Look at the pros & cons. Be adaptable, flexible and innovative in your thinking. Come up with a plan and pursue it vehemently. Confront the facts no matter how brutal it may be.
2. Lack of knowledge about the subject matter you are dealing with:
Have you ever tried using Google or YouTube? You will be amazed at what you will find. Do your research and stop living in the dark. There is nothing you are dealing with that is not on the internet. Knowledge is free, make no excuses. We are in the era of a wide range of knowledge that is equally accessible through mobile phones or some other electronic and digital means. Take courses on innovation, critical thinking or emotional intelligence. These courses are rampant these days and much asked for in various firms.
3. Lack of finances:
have you heard of OPM? What does it mean? And how will it help you achieve your goals?. OPM simply means other people’s money. If you have integrity and willing to work hard, someone will help you. It mustn’t necessarily be someone you know. Who are the people in your network? A friend of mine once told me ” that you have large followers or friends is not a yardstick to measure your human network and relationship. You can only measure the quality of people you have when you’re in need” Get the right company and the right people who will assist you, will be a cupcake. And trust me, there is always a way out when you move with the right people. When I started my business initially, I delivered a lot of services for free to build social capital. Today, it is paying off.
4. No solid relationships:
If you are married, your greatest cheerleader is your spouse. Do not joke with him or her. What about business partners? Like-minded business partners are not to be envied but welcomed. And family? Your parents are your greatest cheerleader. Relationships are keys and emotional intelligence plays a vital role in our relationships.
The bottom line in all of these is to keep your eyes on yours goal and “never quit no matter what.”
By: Chike G. Onyia
Attorney & Counselor at Law
(California Licensed Year 2000)